Bookworm's Crossdresser Jokes (mild spoilers)
Justus is noble so not behaving like noble is frowned uppon. Their reaction fits story. If you went to Soudi Arabia and drink alcohol in public ppl would not appove of it because it clashes with their culture. Same thing happened with Justus. If RIharda have acted favourably it would be huge mistake in story. She has acted according to story setting.
What I am saying is that OP is unreasonable. OP can be offended by it but I find his post really offensive. If OP feelings are important then mine are important as well so best solution here is to drop it and do not revive thread any more. Let sleeping lions lie in peace.